Abstract:
Stolen kisses are often portrayed as resulting from uncontrollable passion and a need to connect intimately with another. This study examined stolen kisses, defined as kissing someone for the first time when the kisser perceived the kiss recipient was not expecting it, and had not provided consent for the kiss. These kisses were examined from the perspective of the individual initiating the kiss. Participants (N = 130; Mage = 32.27; 67% identified as male) completed an anonymous online survey assessing kissing experiences of having stolen a kiss and their open-ended responses were analyzed here. Men were more likely than women to report having stolen a kiss in line with traditional heterosexual scripts. Three scenarios emerged through content analysis: mutual attraction leading to a new relationship; no known mutual attraction but a positive outcome; and no known mutual attraction and a negative outcome. Stealing a kiss from someone for whom there was mutual attraction often led to the onset of an intimate relationship; thus, the kiss constituted a relationship catalyst. When there was no known shared attraction, some interactions ended positively, but others resulted in an end to cordial relations and often strong negative reactions. Findings are discussed in terms of the limited literature on kissing generally and the nonconsensual nature of these events.
摘要:
被盗的吻通常被描绘成无法控制的激情和与他人紧密联系的需要。这项研究检查了偷来的吻,定义为当接吻者感觉到接吻者没有预料到时第一次亲吻某人,也没有同意这个吻。从开始亲吻的个体的角度检查这些亲吻。参与者(N=130;Mage=32.27;67%被确定为男性)完成了一项匿名在线调查,评估了偷吻的接吻经历,并在此处分析了他们的开放式回答。男性比女性更有可能报告窃取了与传统异性恋脚本一致的吻。通过内容分析出现了三种情况:相互吸引导致新的关系;没有已知的相互吸引,而是积极的结果;没有已知的相互吸引和消极的结果。从相互吸引的人那里偷吻通常会导致亲密关系的开始;因此,这个吻构成了关系的催化剂。当没有已知的共享吸引力时,一些互动积极地结束了,但其他人导致了亲密关系的结束,往往是强烈的负面反应。根据有关接吻的有限文献以及这些事件的非自愿性质来讨论研究结果。